It is called chronic inexperienced arrogance-itis, or CIA.
I recently diagnosed myself with this disease and discovered that I've had it...all my life.
CIA is defined as the inflammation of the head and/or ego and is characterized by the following symptoms:
a) Thinking you know exactly how you will do everything, even though haven't done it...ever.
b) Saying and/or thinking, "When I'm a (_______) I will NEVER do/say (_______)."
c) Saying and/or thinking, "When I'm a (_______) I will ALWAYS do/say (_______)."
CIA became manifest in my life when, as I took in the mayhem of my house a few months ago, I thought, "MAN! If I had walked into this house even just a couple years ago I would have thought, "My house will never look like this. How can you even let it get this bad."
Blah blah blah BLAH.
What an arrogant thing for me to think! But I did. Before I had EVER had three children 4 and under.
So I started to think about all the other possible manifestations of CIA that I have had over the course of my inexperienced years. Here's a few other "winners":
1) "How could you ever call your child a beast?!! I will never say my child is a beast."
2) "It is just so wrong to let your child cry in their bed. I will never do that."
3) "Of course I will exclusively breastfeed all of my children. Those who give up just didn't try hard enough or just don't understand how important it really is."
Well, guess what? Three children later, I now know:
1) Children can be beasts ...and that is the only word to describe it sometimes.
2) I know some children can learn to sleep well without having to cry. My 2nd child never had to. But my first??! Pffft. Joke. That's how we had to roll with her. And the same with my 3rd. Do I like it? No. But I've learned that some kids have to cry and I don't feel bad about it.
3) OH, how arrogant for me to think this!!!!! I had NO idea what I was talking about. Yeah, in theory I guess if you "tried" hard enough every woman could breastfeed exclusively...but I submit that sometimes there are more important things, such as, but not limited to, a sane mother who enjoys caring for their baby and a healthy, growing baby.
Now, I know that I am not cured of CIA, just because I realize I am infected with it. Here are a few "nevers" I have thought or said that MAY come to haunt me in the years to come:
1) I will NEVER home school.
(This is assuming the school system doesn't get so jacked up, in the morals it teaches, that I couldn't allow my children to be in that environment and....would have to pull them out and home school them. I hope it doesn't because...that thought terrifies me)
2) I will NEVER use cloth diapers.
(I actually hearing they work pretty well nowadays and aren't as much of a hassle as they used to be. But they do require a big investment up front. Who knows....)
3) I will NEVER like running for exercise.
(I have tried to "like" it in the past and even started training for a 5k when we lived in New Mexico. I got to 2 miles and....that's as far as I could go without passing out! BUT....this was in an area that was at 6,000 feet, so the air had less oxygen. I haven't tried it here yet....but it is closer to sea level. Hmmmm...)
Do you or does someone you love suffer from CIA?
Think about it....you probably do.
"Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye."